It’s been a few years since Plato roamed the streets of Athens, preaching the timeless adage, ‘know thyself.’ Who knew he was talking about relationships?

According to Statistics Canada, in 2006 51.5 per cent of Canadians aged 15 and over were unmarried, including single, divorced and widowed. Twenty years earlier, only 38.6 per cent of Canadians over age 15 were unmarried.

For Winnipeg artist and musician Peter, single is exactly what he wants to be, at least for now.

Peter, who requested his last name not be used, had relationships of varying lengths, some long-term and some short. He feels relationships require a commitment that can starve the self of what it needs.

“Being in a relationship involves a time commitment,” said Peter. “When in a relationship, you don’t have time for yourself, unless you designate time.”

While the numbers speak for themselves, experts are not quick to say the single life is growing in popularity.

“ I feel that I have neglected myself for many years.

Peter, single Winnipegger

“It’s not so much that more people are staying single, it’s just that more people are postponing marriage for a later date,” said David Cheal, professor of sociology at the University of Winnipeg.

Cheal said more people are going to university than ever before and for longer periods, leading them to postpone marriage.

Specifically, Cheal said more women are attending university than in the past. Many of these women are focused on their careers and not on finding and developing relationships.

With more time to ourselves, staying single can help develop personal skills and interests.

“For the first time in my life I am able to catch up on my art and music,” said Peter. “I feel that I have neglected myself for many years.”

The increased focus on personal needs leaves one wondering about the sexual habits of the single person.

Lana Young, manager of Discreet Boutique, said that despite the recession, people are still buying sex toys in droves.

“We’re still doing strong,” Young said. “And do career men and women shop here? Absolutely!”

Peter, who would not comment on how long he plans on staying single, is not entirely against relationships. His answer to a healthy relationship hinges on taking the time to know thyself.

“I’m really enjoying having a relationship with myself right now,” Peter said.

Published in Volume 63, Number 21 of The Uniter (February 26, 2009)